Why I’m Obsessed With MAID And Why You Should Be Too…
Maid, whether you’re reading the novel by Stephanie Land or watching the Netflix adaptation, is a captivating story about a mother and her will to survive. Every turned page or every second spent watching Maid, I felt like I was learning about the poverty systems in America and the systems that keep those in poverty there. This story is that of domestic abuse, systematic poverty, America’s class divide, hard grueling work, single parenting and so much more. All in all, it’s a lesson that you can dig yourself out of any hole, no matter how deep and how devastating.
Maid Stephanie Land Book
Obviously, like most other adaptations, Maid: Hard Work, Low Pay and a Mother’s Will to Survive came out first. It was published in 2019, and has since become critically acclaimed, and is a New York Times bestseller. The book follows the real story of Stephanie Land and her daughter Mia after Stephanie leaves an abusive relationship. As a single mother with very little to fall back on, Stephanie must embark on making a living on her own. In this journey, she faces judgment from absolute strangers for being on government assistance, like someone yelling “you’re welcome” at her in line at the grocery store for using food stamps, and having her bosses make fun of others in similar situations in front of her face. Maid makes you think hard about your privileges and everything you’ve been handed in life and really reflect on what you’ve done to deserve them, if anything at all.
The book was almost grueling to read, in the best way possible. It doesn’t let up, much like Stephanie’s journey didn’t either. The only thing keeping you at bay is the beautiful moments shared between Stephanie and her daughter Mia, like hiking in the woods, sledding down icy hills, cuddling in bed and overall loving one another. Much like for Stephanie, the only thing getting you through the book is the love between the two. Even when they get in a car accident, or there is black mold growing on their windowsill, or when Stephanie has to work overtime to afford something, the love holds them together and gets them through it all.
Maid on Netflix
Maid, the on-screen adaptation of the book, is a fictional version of the story told in the novel. Instead of following Stephanie and Mia, we follow Alex, and her daughter Maddy. While the general premise is the same, slight differences fill the screen and bring in even more topics and themes that were only danced around in the novel. We get a deeper view of Alex’s life as a domestic abuse victim, and what it is like for other victims of the same nature. At her domestic abuse housing, Alex is told that it usually takes victims seven attempts before they truly escape.
This adaptation also takes time to show Alex’s journey in realizing she’s a victim at all. At the beginning of the show, Alex clearly believes that being a “victim” can only be physical, and the emotional abuse she was put through doesn’t matter in the same way. Thankfully, by the end of the show, Alex registers that she is a victim and that emotional abuse is not any lesser than any other form.
Personally, the adaptation touched on more topics than the novel was able to, but both of them drove home the overarching message – that the American systems are built in a way to keep those in poverty in poverty.
Stephanie (and Alex) attempt to find childcare options so that they can work and provide for their daughters, and are hit with the need for paystubs. That’s right. You need paystubs to get childcare so that you can work. Along with this single conundrum, there are so many more situations that are frustrating and painful to learn about. Every time she makes too much money, her benefits get stripped away and once again, she can’t afford the things she needs to survive. There is no reward system for pulling yourself out of poverty, you only get punished for making more money and doing what you’re “supposed to.” Those on government benefits are called “free-loaders” while busting their asses to do anything they can to stay afloat. Almost every page I read or minute I watched of Maid, I was frustrated and heartbroken.
If you haven’t already watched and read Maid, you absolutely need to. This story will open your eyes and will (hopefully) change the way you see the world. Never take what you have for granted. This is a story of just one mother trying her best, but in 2020, there were 37.2 million Americans reported in poverty. This is a single story in the ocean of Americans who struggle in similar ways. Change the way you live, the way you see others, the incoherent and awful thoughts you might think when you see someone using food stamps or WIC coupons in front of you in line, or when you see a homeless person on a street corner. Don’t roll your eyes. Don’t say they should have done more or should have done better. Don’t pass judgment on situations you don’t understand. We need to change.
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