Adulting this and that, by the time you realize it you forget to do all things romance calls for. You find yourself longing to reconnect with your partner but knowing where to start feels overwhelming. Truth be told it can be tricky to know where to begin. So why not go back to the basics? To the very beginning! Flirt a little, remember what you both love, fulfill both your love languages, and try new things together!
Back To The Basics
The more I learn about love, the more I realize it is a profound feeling we can not possibly know everything about. Even medical professionals such as therapists or professors who study love and all of its complexities, agree that it has an impact on the brain that is deeply fascinating.
According to Harvard, love in the brain can be interpreted as a dopamine-driven emotion, but it also has the power to kindle other behaviors and feelings in the mind. If love is filled with feel-good emotions, what can we do to maintain those feelings?
Perhaps we go as far back as how we established the relationship in the first place and focus on connecting with our partners in similar ways. We can practice actively listening, staying curious, and being present to accomplish great things with our person.
Additionally, we should probably never stop learning about our special someone. A great way to accomplish this is by listening to them talk about their day. This makes them feel seen, heard and cared for. I think deep down inside we all want that from our better half, it’s like that cliche saying goes, “treat others how you want to be treated.”
Don’t stop there, take the time to ask questions so you can continue to learn about who they are, what they love, and what they need. Communication is pivotal when connecting with your partner successfully, studies have proven lack of communication as the most common factor for failed relationships. Let’s be honest, none of us want to fail or let our partner down!
Did you know feeling seen by your lover provides a sense of security within a relationship? In fact, showing up for one another contributes possibility to both your health and the status of your connection. Furthermore, nurturing your relationship with your significant other positively impacts how you perceive each other.
Touch Base With Your Love Languages
When you think about love languages keep in mind that there is a total of five that your partner may respond to, learning how they receive and give love is important. Think of it this way, it is a form of communicating how much you love each other, and like I mentioned before communication is everything!
Words of affirmation as a love language, essentially incorporates conveying love through words. Reminding your partner how great they are, how amazing they look, or how much you appreciate everything they do for you are just some ways to express words of affirmation. Think of it as articulating affection with words, you might also try to reassure your partner how much you love them! Be intentional with your words and show your partner endearment how they receive it best. So, maybe schedule some time out of your day to tell your partner all the sweet things on your mind!
For someone who prefers quality time as their love language, you can set time aside to enjoy each other’s company. Anything from having a conversation to going on dates or just simply being around them. Although the concept of quality time is being together, it is vital to be present in the moment.
Physical Touch can range anywhere from giving each other kisses, holding hands, and hugging. It means communicating with your partner through physical embrace, showing them you love and care for them however that may look for you two.
When navigating acts of service as a love language it means showing up in ways that help your partner accomplish things in their daily life with ease. For example, if your partner is having a long day and today it is their turn to clean up the kitchen, you can clean it up instead and that translates to I see you and I am here for you.
If your partner’s love language is receiving gifts, this is a great opportunity to practice planning thoughtful presents that evoke emotions. Show your lover that you are listening to their preferences, meaningful milestones, and core values. Some gift ideas include customizing presents such as a hoodie, thoughtful DIY projects, or thinking outside the box and gifting them something they always wanted during childhood. The biggest takeaway is to put as much thought into gift-giving as possible.
Ideas To Reconnect
After a while, you may find that you have exhausted going back to the basics as well as nurturing your love languages and you want to find other ways to feel connected. Well, reconnecting with your partner is also a great opportunity to try new things together or revisit common interests!
Let’s start by Incorporating some romance, you can try recreating your first date, nostalgia at it’s finest. This can spark intense feelings, the feel-good kind! Reconnecting with your partner and bringing back some of those honey moon vibes.
Another great way to connect is by playing card games, there are different types available, some consist of asking each other questions but you will find other interesting sets.
However, if you both prefer something outdoors you might consider a road trip. Picture it, a nice car ride with an awesome playlist, connecting with your person one-on-one with plenty of quality time to be had. If not, there is also the possibility of a nice getaway, plan a trip together to a place you both have always dreamt of going, and experience something new together!
Nonetheless, if those are not your cup of tea maybe finding a new hobby together is a better option. If you’re both artsy peeps, try air dry clay kits they are a fun and interesting way to be creative and spark up conversations. On that same note if you both like Lego sets, try your hand at building one together!
Remember reconnecting with your partner takes time and effort, most importantly being present. These are just some ways you can connect but the possibilities are endless. The first step can be as easy as starting a conversation with your partner and letting them know you wish to reconnect.
Is reconnecting with your partner challenging for you? Let us know in the comments below.
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