As you grow older, you start to realize that every relationship in your life can’t be permanent. Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of reflection on the friendships, relationships and connections I’ve made throughout my life. It takes a while to realize it, but eventually, you have to face the fact that every relationship you have can’t be forever. They simply can’t be, and beyond that, most of the time, they also shouldn’t be. People grow, change, and develop and all of their relationships might not fit the path they are supposed to be on. While this a friendship breakup or breakup of any sort can hurt, I’ve come to realize that all of your people aren’t permanent in your life journey, and that’s OK. Here are five reasons why this loss actually benefits you.
Everything Happens For A Reason
Don’t click away. I know reading this statement can induce a major eye roll, and I totally get it. When you’ve ended a relationship (platonic or romantic), this is the LAST thing you want to hear. But as someone who has reflected back on some relationships that meant the world to me, I’ve realized that they actually propelled me toward other relationships that would mean even more. When one door closes, a million others open. If I hadn’t decided to leave my first high school, in search of more, I wouldn’t be getting married this year. If I hadn’t been left and ignored by one of my best friends, I wouldn’t have grown closer to someone else who is now my best friend. These endings are actually new beginnings, you just can’t see that until later.
More Room To Grow
Most of the time, relationships end because they are enabling you or the other person to grow and change. Sometimes, if you have known someone for a really long time, it can feel like you are stuck in the past. This might be because your relationship has become dysfunctional, and you both feel like you have to be a specific way to make the relationship work. If you feel this way, it’s probably time to break out and end the relationship. In a healthy relationship, both parties should feel free to change, develop, grow and learn without judgment.
Reevaluating Your Beliefs And Boundaries
Much like the last one, everyone changes throughout their lives. And everyone SHOULD change. We all grow and learn as we age, and most of the time, it is for the good. If you realize that someone in your life has really conflicting beliefs than you, you might need to reevaluate your relationship. And beyond your beliefs, your boundaries can change as you age as well. Even if you were once OK with something, you don’t always have to be. And if the other person doesn’t respect that, it’s time to go.
No More Chasing
Do you feel like you are putting in all of the work? Do you feel like you have to harass your friend in order to get anything out of them? No more. We don’t chase, we attract. If someone doesn’t want to hang out with or be with you anymore, you shouldn’t want to be with them either. You are attracting negative energy and someone who doesn’t even value you.
Intentions And Intentionality
Is someone being your friend for all of the wrong reasons? Or have you kept your relationship afloat for the wrong reasons? You have to take some time to look at your relationships and why you are holding onto them. If they don’t benefit you in a positive way, and are only bringing you pain, then it’s time to leave them in the past. You should check your intentions, but also be intentional about the love and connections you are bringing into your life.
A friendship breakup doesn’t have to break you! We hope these reasonings can help you see why it was probably a good choice for everyone involved! Have any stories or advice? Share it with us in the comments below!